Trade your expectations for appreciation and the world changes instantly. Take a look around, what do you notice? Are talking about what’s working or what’s not? Are you speaking about problems and what is wrong or what is so right? When you talk of others are you pointing out their flaws or what is so great about them? If you don’t like someone, do you constantly talk about them or have you just moved on and let them be? Do you constantly think you know better than someone else what they should be doing? Do you criticize yourself or do you appreciate what you have been able to do? Do you focus on what you’re good at or only what you still have left to learn?
How much time you spend appreciating in a day is a reflection of how much time you spend in a positive state. And since the quality of your emotions is directly proportional to the quality of your life, wouldn’t you want to spend as much time in a positive state as possible?
Appreciation is the highest emotional state, it is the same as love. When we speak of appreciation it means for yourself, others and anything that is important to you. It means appreciating people for who they are, not who you want them to be. It means appreciating yourself for who you are, not who you think you should be. Let yourself and others be who they truly are. If you don’t like who other people are, instead of trying to change them, let them be. And let them go if that’s what you need to do. But stop trying to make them someone they are not or do not want to be. They do not need to change in order for you to feel better.
And if there is something you don’t like about yourself or your life, change it. If you want something, get it. It is your job not anyone else’s. Leave other people alone and make the changes you think you need to make. Find a way to feel better on your own because it is no one else’s job to do it for you. And regardless of what other people have convinced you of, you are not responsible for how anyone else feels, ever.
You are responsible for how you feel and for every single thing in your life. Other people are responsible for how they feel and for every single thing is their own lives. Stop trying to control others in order to feel better. Stop trying to change yourself in order to make other people around you feel better. Everyone is responsible for their own feelings and their own lives. Make decisions that are in the direction of what you want and trust the right people and circumstances will line up for you. In other words, mind your own business.
Stop controlling and start appreciating.