You have nothing to prove to anyone, and once you really believe this you will experience so much peace, freedom and happiness.
When we feel criticized or misunderstood, the urge to prove ourselves to others can come up. We want to prove “I am right and you are wrong.” This urge can even become an obsession, taking over our thoughts and actions.
Why do we feel this need to prove ourselves? Often this comes from the incredible discomfort that criticism can bring: a sense of unworthiness.
The urge to prove ourselves often stems from a moment of feeling vulnerable, unaccepted, undermined, or misunderstood. There is a deep sense of unworthiness behind it. The good news is that this belief that others are responsible for our worthiness can be un-learned. You can replace this behavior of allowing others to determine your self-worth with self-confidence.
It’s time you begin to move into self-confidence and let go of the need to prove yourself. You are already worthy. Below is a list of ways you can begin feeling worthy and confident and let go of the urge to prove yourself to anyone.
Stop the comparison
Have you ever heard Theodore Roosevelt’s famous quote “Comparison is the thief of joy?” Well this could not be more true. There will always be people who are smarter, better looking, wealthier, more influential, you get the idea. So what? Does someone else’s success really mean you aren’t ready or don’t deserve to be happy, free, loved or successful? What does someone else’s success really have to do with you and what you are asking for in this life?
Trying to measure up to other people in order to validate your self-worth will do nothing but destroy your soul. Your self-worth has nothing to do with where anyone else. You deserve what you are asking for now, you are worthy.
Let go of other people’s standards
Your standards for your life are the only standards that matter. There is nothing to gain from needing the praise, adoration, or acceptance of others in order to feel good about yourself.
Your life will positively transform the moment you stop trying to impress other people (including your significant other, parents, siblings, friends, children, coworkers, neighbors…everyone) and start focusing on living authentically.
Your standards are what you want to follow. Your standards might be different than other people’s and so you have to listen to yourself if you want to live happily and authentically. You will feel your confidence rise when you begin adhering to what you believe you are capable of, let go of what doesn’t feel good to you, and go after what does.
You want to feel worthy? Live authentically and give zero f@#ks what anyone else thinks.
Accept that you will be judged
People are going to judge you no matter what you do. Did you hear that? No matter what you do there will be someone who judges you for it. Judgement from others is an unavoidable part of life. Since this is the case, there is only one thing to do: Be real and live authentically. Proving yourself will do you no good. People who judge you are committed to their judgement. Let them be committed, and you go do your thing. Living your life freely and honestly and according to who you are feels wonderful, living a life of judgement does not.
If they change their minds about you it won’t be because of anything you say to them, it will be because you don’t care what they think and you exude a confidence that cannot be denied. Besides, wouldn’t it feel better to spend time with those that are committed to having fun and not to talking about what everyone else is doing wrong?
Most people don’t really care anyway
Even the people judging you are usually over it in a few minutes and they’re onto something else. Things are a big deal to you, but after a quick judgement most people are back to thinking about something else. Let it go. Move on. And honestly, if they’re still talking about it days later, not your problem.
Remember, there is only one person who has the power to decide your worth, and that is YOU. Don’t put your happiness, inner peace, or worth in someone else’s hands.
Feel worthy and confident now
So, instead of trying to prove yourself to someone else, what if you went inside of yourself and asked some really important questions.
-What do YOU believe you are capable of? What do YOU really value? What do YOU really want to do in this life?
Now, instead of proving yourself to other people, go out and live your life authentically according to the answers you just came up with. That is how you feel confident. That is how you feel worthy. You honor YOURSELF. Commit to living authentically and reject the need to impress anyone.
You have nothing to prove to anyone.