Dana Gatto
Do you feel obligated to do anything or to be any specific way? Or do you feel totally free?
Loyal. Dependable. Forgiving.
While these can all be great attributes of human beings, it’s what drives these characteristics that is worth examining. You see, many people who are considered loyal, dependable and incredibly forgiving are operating under the emotion of guilt and a belief in obligation, which is in direction opposition to the Law of Attraction.
The Law of Attraction is universal and always at play. You see, you get what you feel about and think about. We are always attracting everything we experience in our lives. We attract everything we see, we hear, the people in it, how they behave once they get here and so on and so forth.
Sometimes, we attract something or someone from one place and over time, we begin feeling and thinking differently.
You see…that is how we are supposed to live. We are supposed to evolve. We are supposed to make new decisions. We are supposed to live and be inspired to new preferences about how we want life to be moving forward. We are doing it all day every day. The great thing is, you don’t have to understand it for it to work for you, you just need to feel as good as you can in any given moment. Although if you do understand it, life becomes really, really fun.
So how can this be problematic for someone who believes they are supposed to be loyal, dependable and forgiving? Well think about it, if you are always making new decisions and if you are consciously evolving and choosing to feel happier and better, wouldn’t it make sense that some of what you have attracted in the past wouldn’t still be a match to who you are now? Can you see how this would be problematic for some people? Can you see how obligations to others could affect this?
Now it is important to note that some people in your life are going to move with you. They too are going to choose to feel better and keep living happier. You do have some influence on this happening as well. Since you get what you think and feel about, you can help people move into a better feeling place by focusing on that for them. However, you do not get to create for anyone else. You can influence people to feeling better (and of course worse also) but you do not get to choose their PREFERENCES for them. And they do not get to choose your PREFERENCES for you. Freedom is what we’re talking about here, not obligation.
So, this means some people, things and circumstances will naturally stay in your life and some will not. If you have been operating from a place of obligation this can feel like a painful process. If you feel like you HAVE to do things, like you HAVE to be around specific people, like you HAVE no choice, you’re going to feel pain if and when these things are no longer a match to who you are and and what you really want.
You have to let yourself be excited no matter what. You have to let yourself be brilliant no matter what. You have to let yourself have fun no matter what. You have to be happy no matter what. From that place the people, places, things and circumstances that feel best to you will be so simple to feel and know. Things will effortlessly move in and out of your life. Life can be very easy and very fulfilling if you stop feeling obligated. If you stop feeling guilty about about what you want. You are not inappropriate. You are not bad. You are not wrong.
If someone or something is no longer a match to you, that is not anyone’s fault. It is just the way it is. If you can accept this, life becomes really magical and really fun.
You can be loyal to who you really are. You can depend on yourself. You can forgive yourself and others because it feels better to you. But you are not obligated to feel bad any longer. So allow yourself to feel good and then decide. Feel good and then….Repeat that to yourself all throughout the day.
The greatest gift you can give to yourself and to others is to be happy and allow the universe to move through you and them.
XO,
Dana
