Value:How to Feel Valuable, Heard and Respected

Have you ever felt like no one can hear you?Like you talk and yet no one is actually  listening? Or do you feel like people don’t respect you? Either what you have to say or what you have to offer?

What if I told you that you don’t need them to hear you.You don’t need them to respect you. You need to hear and respect you!

Let me explain.

Do you know what you really want, but you talk yourself out of it, make excuses, don’t follow through? Do you tell yourself what needs to be done but you ignore yourself? If you do any of these things you have probably noticed that other people seem to disrespect and ignore you.

What really needs to happen is that YOU need to listen to you, and now. You are constantly communicating with yourself but sometimes your own inner wisdom, your own desires, your own solutions get drowned out by other peoples opinions or by your own fear. You don’t hear yourself or you don’t trust yourself.

How do you change this? You have to create boundaries when it comes to other people and you also have to learn to trust yourself. To create boundaries means you don’t allow other peoples opinions or desires or what they want from you to be more important than your own. Just because someone wants something from you, wants to give you advice, or wants things a certain way does not mean you have to agree. Boundaries are healthy. Boundaries are an agreement with yourself about what you will and will not tolerate when it comes to your life. This can mean in work, in relationships, in dealing with money, advice, opinions, etc.

When it comes to being heard, you have to listen to yourself and trust that you know what is best for you. There is not one other person on this planet that can understand why you do what you do besides you.You know what your motives are and what your goals are. You know if you’re doing something because it feels better. You have to trust yourself and listen, and then go.

What is the result of doing these things? Value. You will feel valued and valuable. When you operate based in love and not fear you know your value. You know who you are. You can follow your own guidance and live your dream life.

XO,

Dana